We just found out earlier today that a relative died. I never really knew her that much because she was from hubby's side of the family; but still, she was part of the family. We plan to send a comforting sympathy gift by tomorrow, while my sisters-in-law will visit the remaining family members.
Knowing that a family member is no longer there for you physically is such a sad thing. Something that I wouldn't want my sons to experience, but I know it can't be helped.
This is part of life, and we all have to deal with it in our own special way.
However hard and painful it might seem....